I am upset at what it is, and they acted like it's my Gramma again saying "it must be re-Lated."  Well, it's not okay.  And yes that's the message I got from her.  Now, what's relating?  Stop making fun of me like it's some big, interesting exchange of drama where I'm bemusedly in trouble suddenly to perfect your world.  I'm here to get thru to what needs to be gotten thru to.  Not to be superstitious.